International Men's Day 2022

International Men’s Day is celebrated worldwide and highlights the positive value men bring to the world, their families and communities. This year, the theme for International Men’s Day is “Helping Men and Boys”.

Andrew Pain speaks on asking better questions so that truly we can safeguard the mental wellbeing of our sons, brothers, dads, uncles, male friends, husbands and partners.

Andrew is a TEDx / Keynote speaker, helping business leaders to avoid burnout whilst thriving in their roles by mastering their; boundaries and commitments, decision making abilities, delegation processes, time efficiency, resilience and impact.
Andrew also campaigns on domestic abuse and gender unity, speaking about his personal experiences of domestic abuse and the wider challenges society faces in tackling domestic abuse, including; how to support all victims of domestic abuse (male and female), how to equip people to spot the signs of abusive relationships, how to tackle gender bias and how to develop strong boundaries which protect us at work and home.

Men's Mental Health: A silent and far-reaching emergency - By Andrew Pain

  • 3/4 of people who complete suicide each year in the UK are men.
  • Over 80% of homeless people in the UK are men.   
  • 95% of people in prison in the UK are men. 
  • 60% of victims of violence in the UK are men or boys … and there’s no official government strategy to tackle violence against men and boys: the issue is simply swept up into the official government strategy to tackle violence against women and girls.


If we’re serious about addressing men’s mental health and using Men’s International Day as a catalyst for long lasting change, we need to move beyond a well-trodden assumption that: men don’t talk’ (so therefore how do we get them to talk).

Therefore, the solution to men’s mental health lies in simply getting them to talk.  

We need to ask better questions so that truly we can safeguard the mental wellbeing of our sons, brothers, dads, uncles, male friends, husbands and partners. We need to be asking questions like: 

1) How do we actively support men who are struggling? (Which means specific strategies/action/funding/resource)  

2) What are the barriers/prejudices/stigmas within our society which might hold men back from opening up?  

3) How do we help men to be the best version of themselves?   

I have a number of suggestions in response to these questions: 

START THEM YOUNG:   As parents of young children (boys and girls) we need to encourage our children to talk openly about their feelings, which in the heat of the moment, is actually easier said than done.  

When it’s all kicking off, it’s far easier as a parent to shut down the bickering between siblings (anything for peace and quiet), or put them on the iPad (because they’re nagging us to death and the house is a state) It’s so much harder to put the time aside, to encourage them to open up and reflect on their arguments/feelings, and to ask questions in the right way, so that they can talk freely and without fear.  

Each night, before my boys go to bed (they’re aged 4,6,9), I encourage them to share something about the day which a) stood out to them and made them happy, b) something that made them sad and c) something they’re worried about.  

There are evenings when they have deep stuff to share and sometimes their responses are trivial, the point is normalising talking about feelings like fear, worry and sadness. There are evenings when I long to rush them into bed so I can relax, but I remind myself again and again of the importance of these mini chats.

SOCIAL ACTIVITY:    According to a recent YouGov poll, nearly half of men admitted to being lonely (sometimes, often or all the time) and yet, generally speaking, we’re naturally sociable creatures. An epidemic of loneliness has been created by COVID restrictions sparking some very bad social habits. Add into the mix technology habits, divorce, poverty, burnout … it’s time to fight back! Research suggests that men bond more during shared, intense experiences such as group sporting activity, group social activities, etc. So as parents, business owners, team leaders, community activists, ask yourselves:  

What activities could I promote/fund/do/facilitate, in order to help boys/men naturally connect?

GENDER BIAS:We need to stop demonising men if we want to raise men with purpose, passion and compassion. This includes challenging the media narrative.  

Take domestic abuse for example. Currently in the UK, a third of victims of domestic abuse are men (and that’s not taking into account the high levels of under-reporting due to shame and the stigma of being a male victim of violence) yet still the media and politicians talk about ‘the overwhelming majority’ of victims of domestic abuse being women, when in fact it’s the ‘greater/larger proportion’. Men as victims of domestic abuse rather than perpetrators, is not as uncommon as the media would like to portray. 

We need to call out our own language and attitudes around needing to ‘man-up’, looking for things with ‘man-eyes’, needing a ‘kitchen pass’ to go out, wondering ‘who wears the trousers‘ in our colleague’s relationships or slating men for ‘mansplaining’ (the list goes on.)  

PSYCHOLOGICAL SAFETY:    It works on the principle that humans are at their best when they feel safe, supported and know that they can speak up about how they feel.  

Feeling safe means NOT being worried about being belittled, penalised, ignored or disbelieved when you share how you feel. We can create this safety in our homes and workplaces by being open about our own struggles and challenges, and being ready to listen to other people’s struggles/challenges (which means managing our state if someone else’s challenge relates to our own behaviour/decisions!) 

Another International Men’s Day, another year passes and times are tough! So let’s create meaningful change: let’s come together as men and women to challenge the narrative, remove the stigmas and create a better society for all. 

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